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TIP 1

A QUICK WAY TO KNO YOURSELF, IF YOU DON’T YET KNO YOURSELF.

Buy a notebook. Write everything down in this notebook. Write your thoughts no matter how big or small. Put your favorite quotes in there. Jot down the name of your favorite songs, movies, books, artists, places you have visited, places you want to visit. Write down your beliefs, and new things you’ve learned throughout the day. Write down the things that make you happy, the things that make you sad, the things you want to learn more about, and the things that piss you off. Ask yourself questions. Try to write down the answers. If you don’t have the answers, go live life and figure it the fuck out. Never stop asking why. Collect pieces of art, and dried flowers between book pages. Tuck postcards, boarding passes, business cards, and event tickets within its folds. Write down the things that scare you, and elaborate on why. Create hypotheses, and then make connections. Write down your plans and your goals. Rewrite them. Let them change and shift. Make promises to yourself. Write down the things that you’re grateful for. Record your triggers. Talk about your day to yourself. What you’ll start to see are patterns. Everything in the universe is a pattern. The more you notice these patterns in nature, in your interactions, and within yourself, the more aware you become. We’re all awareness, but we exist within varying degrees of it. Don’t ever let anyone tell you who you are. Get to know yourself, and do it over and over again. Enjoy the ride

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TIP 2

START YOUR SHADOW WORK

First, write an apology note to yourself about all the ways you feel you have let yourself down. 


Do this once a month using a new prompt each time.

Potential prompts include: Why do I feel jealous around successful people? How do I deal with my failures? What am I insecure about? Why can’t I say I’m embarrassed when I’m embarrassed? Why do I talk badly about people that I secretly admire? Why do I judge people before I celebrate them? Why do I think everyone must believe what I believe? Why can’t I see someone else’s point of view easily? Why do I have trouble being kind to people? Why do I have a hard time congratulating people? Why don’t I smile and say hello to people I’m passing on the street? When I procrastinate, what am I really afraid of? When I look back on my childhood, what makes me the most angry? Why can’t I take a compliment? Why do I talk badly about people? What do I think I have failed at? Why do I believe my ideas are not good enough? Why am I afraid to engage with people I do not know? Why is my first reaction to be mean when I’m scared? Why can’t I trust myself? Why am I afraid to be abandoned? How have I abandoned myself? In what areas of my life could I love myself more? Why don’t I take care of my health and body? Why am I so lazy? Why don’t I find it important to take care of myself before others? Why don’t I want to be consistent? Why do I believe guilt equals gratitude? Why am I afraid to truthfully say what I do and do not like? Why do I talk behind people’s backs? Why do I lie? Why am I afraid of change?

*rinse + repeat

*handle with care

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TIP 3

EMBODIMENT OF REGALITY

*Practice good posture. Never hunch your shoulders or hang your head. Actually, shoulders back, chest open with your ribs pulled toward your spine like you’re wearing a corset. Applicable to all genders. 

*Make sure your clothes fit well and make you feel good. Every single outfit you wear should make you feel confident. If it doesn’t, throw it away. If you’re left with 2 outfits, that means you’ll be serving uniformed looks until you build your wardrobe up. That’s okay. With the pieces you do have, make sure you wash them on the proper setting (maybe some pieces only need hand washed). Furthermore, hang drying a lot of your garments to preserve their longevity is a game changer. The dryer makes a lot of clothes shrink and fade. Also, cut off loose strings/ends, and get things tailored at the dry cleaner if you can. Invest in *quality* pieces. A wardrobe is a personal expression and an actual work of art. Let it steadily build. If you kno yourself, you’ll build a wardrobe that will truly reflect your taste for years to come.

*Not everything needs dealt with in the moment. Make mental notes. If you can’t, make notes on your phone.

*No matter what you look like, it’s genuine kindness and optimism that shines through your face. It’s what actually makes you glow and look beautiful. The beauty industry sells us so many products to try and achieve this when the true beauty lies within and radiates through our eyes, skin, and aura. If you kno yourself, you’ll know how to naturally achieve this and actually shine.

*The number of possessions does not equate to ever-lasting happiness. You just need to take care of what you do have. Go for quality over quantity... it’s an age old saying, but it’s old as fuck for a reason. It’s true. When you’re buying home goods, or personal items, just invest in quality. Same goes for experiences, and people.

*Sophistication comes from a refined muscle in whatever capacity you’re exercising said muscle. With that being said, practice. Sophistication is ease and effortlessness. 

*If you don’t know something, don’t pretend that you do. Ask questions. Listen. Be observant.

*Ground your energy. Scattered energy is unbecoming, scary, and annoying. We instinctively do not trust those we do not feel subconsciously safe around. Make a habit out of sitting on the ground for 2 minutes in silence each morning and rooting your energy deep within the ground. Over time you’ll develop a much more stable and reliable presence. If you find yourself in a situation that increases your heart rate and your breath is becoming increasingly shallow... duck off in a corner, shut your eyes, and take some deep belly breaths. You will stabilize and reclaim your power within the situation. Kno yourself. 

*Big accomplishments are made up of small consistencies. It’s a lifestyle.

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TIP 4

NATAL CHART LITERACY

LEARN TO READ + UNDERSTAND YOUR NATAL CHART

it’s your personal instructional manual.

Your natal chart, which is also known as a birth chart, is an astrological map of where all the planets were in their journey around the Sun (obv from our perspective on earth) at the exact moment you took your first breath on earth.

In order to accurately calculate your natal chart, you’ll need the time, date, and place of birth. It’s true, some people do not know their birth times, and without this vital information it does make things a bit tougher and a bit less precise.

Without a birth time, you won’t be able to identify your rising sign, also known as an ascendant. Nor will you correctly know which houses the planets occupy in your natal chart. Thankfully, you can still retrieve a lot of info about yourself simply by entering your date and location of birth—so don’t let that stop you from astrologically investigating what you can about yourself.

If you do know your exact birth time, though, **accuracy is important** you’ll be able to get an expansive picture of your personal blueprint. The ascendant dictates a lot in your chart. The rising sign sort of sets the tone of your chart, especially dictating your personal flair as this energy governs your first house of self. This rising energy adds a layer of richness to the qualities of your essence (your sun sign). Take it a step further and see what planet rules the zodiac of your particular rising sign. For example, if you are a Libra rising (Venus is the ruler of Libra), look and see what house Venus falls in your chart. This will tell you a bit of how and where you will be heavily influenced by Venus (or whatever planet rules your rising sign) and in the particular part of your life that corresponds to that house.

Speaking of houses, every birth chart is broken down into 12 different sections or “houses”. Each house is related to a specific area of your life and each of those 12 houses is governed by one of the 12 signs in the zodiac. The ascendent line horizontally cuts the chart in half. It represents the literal horizon. The planets that fall under it can manifest in your life in a more private way, and the planets that fall above it can be experienced a little more publicly in your life. If you have a concentration of planets in a specific house, that area of your life will probably be pretty important.

So, planets. The planets + all celestial bodies are always moving. The further they are from the sun, the longer their rotations are. The moon is a different story, though. It’s so close to us so we perceive the moon as moving through each of the 12 signs every two days. With that being said, once you run your birth chart, take a look and see what sign and house each of your planets fall in.

Okay so, start nibbing around your chart. Check out where Venus, Mars, and the moon’s zodiac sign are placed in your chart because it will tell you a bit about your love language, and your emotional wants and needs. Mercury will tell you how you prefer to communicate, and how you like to receive and give information. Look where Saturn is for where you may need to work harder (even work out some karma) and also Jupiter for where you may be lucky and where things are super extra in your life.

Investigate to see what aspects or angles are formed between two planets and then research what those aspects mean and what areas of your chart each are in. Check and see if you have any “stelliums.” These are where you’ll find that concentration of energy within specific areas of your life that we discussed earlier. Look at the balance of elements (planets in fire, earth, air and water signs) in your chart... or imbalance. Then see what the balance of qualities are like in your chart (planets in cardinal, mutable, or fixed signs).


The best advice we can give is to simply investigate, research things you do not know, and be patient with yourself. Astrology is a language. It takes time to understand, and there are always new things to learn. 


THE 12 SIGNS OF THE ZODIAC


Aries // “I Am” // the ram
Taurus // “I Have” // the bull
Gemini // “I Think” // the twins
Cancer // “I Feel” // the crab
Leo // “I Will” // the lion
Virgo // “I Serve” // the virgin
Libra // “I Balance” // the scales
Scorpio // “I Desire” // the scorpion
Sagittarius // “I See” // the archer
Capricorn // “I Use” // the goat
Aquarius // “I Know” // the water bearer
Pisces // “I Believe” // the fish


GENDERS


MASCULINE     Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius, and Aquarius // stable + righteous

FEMININE Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn, and Pisces // flowing + magnetizing



MODALITIES

a plan can be sparked by a cardinal sign, built by a fixed sign, and then perfected by a mutable sign.

CARDINAL Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn // initiating

FIXED Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius // immovable + grounded

MUTABLE Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces // flexible



ELEMENTS


FIRE Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius // dynamic + aggressive

EARTH Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn // loyal + dependable

AIR Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius // detached + curious

WATER Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces // intuitive + receptive


THE PLANETS


Sun // self awareness, ego, and essence
Moon // inner emotional life, and karma
Mercury // communication, processing of information
Venus // love, beauty, and money
Mars // assertiveness, aggression, and desire
Jupiter // luck, opportunity, and expansiveness 
Saturn // responsibility, time, and routine
Uranus // individuality, revolutionary, and sporadic action
Neptune // dreams, healing, and intuition
Pluto // sex, death, & transformation

THE HOUSES


1st // identity
2nd // values
3rd // communication
4th // roots
5th // creativity
6th // responsibility
7th // partnerships
8th // intimacy
9th // beliefs
10th // legacy
11th // friends
12th // transcendence

SIGN RULERSHIPS


Aries // Mars
Taurus // Venus
Gemini // Mercury
Cancer // Moon
Leo // Sun
Virgo // Mercury
Libra // Venus
Scorpio // Pluto (Mars)
Sagittarius // Jupiter
Capricorn // Saturn
Aquarius // Uranus (Saturn) 
Pisces // Neptune (Jupiter)

ASTROIDS, ANGLES, OR MATHEMATICAL POINTS + WHAT THEY GOVERN IN YOUR LIFE.


Chiron (Wounded Healer)

Ascendent (First Impressions)

IC (Private/Family)

Descendent (Partnership)

MC (Public/Career)

North Node (Destiny)

South Node (Talents)

Part of Fortune (Processes to Success)

Vertex (Fated Happenings + Connections) 

ASPECTS


Aspects are connections formed between planets/astroids/mathematical points depending on the degree of the Zodiac in which they occupy. When these bodies occupy the same degree of different signs, they have a connection that is either harmonious or challenging, depending on the signs involved, or the number of degrees separating them.

conjunction 0° ± 8° // blending

opposition180° ± 8° dynamic (difficult)

trine120° ± 8° flowing (easy)

square90° ± 8° dynamic (difficult)

sextile60° ± 6° flowing (easy)

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TIP 5

HOW TO HAVE A

HARD CONVERSATION

1. Remember showing up imperfectly is better than not showing up at all. Avoiding the hard conversations ensures comfort. Confronting them invites growth. What do you value more?

2. Define key terms being discussed in the hard conversation. If your partner isn’t texting you enough... What does “enough” mean to you? How do they define it? If it’s regarding your performance at work, how does your boss define “productivity?” Often our conflicts are fueled by miscommunications more than anything else.

3. Replace judgement with curiosity. Curiosity turns an argument into a conversation. Instead of rushing to make your point, urge for more clarification. Replace rebuttals with “I want to fully understand. Can you please explain that to me a bit more?”

4. Allow room for silence. Even if it’s uncomfortable. Silence to process is better than speaking just to speak. This also gives the other person the opportunity to fully finish their thought.

5. If you’re feeling yourself getting defensive, ask yourself, ‘What is this bringing up for me? What is my ego/fear telling me right now? Is it true?’ Sometimes we project our own hurt into a conversation, punishing the person that isn’t even the real source of our frustration.

6. When it’s your turn to respond, acknowledge the points you agree with just as much as the ones you disagree with. Find the important similarities between your perspectives when possible. Perhaps you both want the same things but what different ways of going about it.

7. Rephrase what the person said to make sure you fully understood. Something like, “What I’m hearing is __________.” Then allow the other person to confirm or correct any misconceptions.

8. Know when you need to check out of a hard conversation. If the person you’re talking to is not making an effort to hear you or making you feel small, step away. A simple, “I’m not feeling heard right now. I need to step away or revisit this conversation another time” can suffice.

9. Remember: sometimes the hard conversation needs to start with yourself. What are you feeling? What are your opinions on the matter at hand? How are you biased? What are your blindspots? How do you want to be a better person? To others? To yourself?

*listen for the sake of empathetic comprehension. don’t just wait for your turn to speak.
*do not be defensive. a hard conversation’s purpose is not for you to defend your actions, but to take accountability and improve.


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